Navigating Emotions Part 3: Anxiety

The next emotion we will work through is anxiety. According to the American Phycological Association, anxiety can be defined as "an emotion characterized by apprehension and somatic symptoms of tension in which an individual anticipates impending danger, catastrophe, or misfortune. The body often mobilizes itself to meet the perceived threat. Muscles become tense, breathing is faster, and the heart beats more rapidly." Sound familiar?

Anxiety is an ever-growing emotion in our society today. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, approximately 51 million Americans suffer from anxiety so extreme, it has become a disorder that disrupts their way of life.

We are not talking about the disorder Generalized Anxiety. We are merely talking about the emotion. For example, you accidentally send an angry message to the wrong person. You are fearful about what is going to happen next. Will they read it? Will they lash out at you? Will you loose this person as a friend? This is anxiety.

Oftentimes whenever we are anxious, we need one of two things: support or space.

Some people may get overstimulated easily whenever they are anxious. Meaning the sounds, smells, and people surrounding them are simply too much and are overwhelming to be around. This creates the need for space or distance from the things that may be overwhelming them, that way they can better tackle those feelings of anxiety.

Others need support. This means whenever they begin to feel anxious, they need the support from others to help them work through their feelings, or to simply listen. Many people feel better after a simple act like a hug or holding their hand.

So, how do w use this information to communicate with others? A good start is identifying what type of support you need. Do you typically need space, or support? Once you nail this down, then it becomes easier to share your needs when anxiety takes over.